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Friday, March 11, 2011
Don't worry, be happy!
Every person who you meet in life shares one single goal with you. Even though the concept of this goal seems simple, most people do not understand how to actually achieve it. This goal is happiness. This is much different to materialistic goals such as getting a job or buying a car. Those achievements are based on attaining something physical. Happiness is not physical, it is a state of being which allows you to reflect upon joyfulness.
I have a question for you: How would you describe the life of a happy person?
You probably can respond with a list on things, relationships or ideals which you do not have however would like to have. Alternitvly, you may imagine yourself without the common defects that burden you. If this is correct, you are being deceived by a common misconception. You have the mindset that if you remove your defects and achieve all your materialistic goals, then you will be happy. The problem with that mindset is, you will always have defects and you will always have materialistic goals. This may not seem like good news to you but please be assured that you have the capability of being the happiest person on this planet without changing a thing accept your mentality. Don't get me wrong, striving to change is a good thing and I encourage everyone to do it however, it is certainly not essential to being happy.
Let's take a look at the reason why you are not happy. If I had a thousand dollars at my disposal, I would calmly bet that your esteem is the issue. Esteem includes your self esteem as well as the way which others think of you. It is important to have good self esteem however everyone goes through periods in life of low self esteem.
The largest cause of low self esteem is appearance. Let me introdcuce some facts which I sincerely hope changes the way you think if you have a bad self image. 1) Most people believe that they are ugly. It is COMPLETLY normal. 2) Just about everyone is told by someone in their life that they are ugly. It usually takes dozens of positive compliments to repair the reduced self esteem this causes because people pay more attention to negative comments. 3) Confidence is more attractive than beauty. 4) Beauty does not result in happines.
People often ask "what is the seceret to happiness?" The seceret is appreciation. Next time you are hanging out with your friends or having dinner with your partener, take a moment to think about how good it is to have a relationship with that person. Think about all the good things you have and consider how lucky you are to be who you are. Stop thinking about how good it would be if...... Start thinking about the good rather than the bad. The only thing you need to change is your mindset.
I have a question for you: How would you describe the life of a happy person?
You probably can respond with a list on things, relationships or ideals which you do not have however would like to have. Alternitvly, you may imagine yourself without the common defects that burden you. If this is correct, you are being deceived by a common misconception. You have the mindset that if you remove your defects and achieve all your materialistic goals, then you will be happy. The problem with that mindset is, you will always have defects and you will always have materialistic goals. This may not seem like good news to you but please be assured that you have the capability of being the happiest person on this planet without changing a thing accept your mentality. Don't get me wrong, striving to change is a good thing and I encourage everyone to do it however, it is certainly not essential to being happy.
Let's take a look at the reason why you are not happy. If I had a thousand dollars at my disposal, I would calmly bet that your esteem is the issue. Esteem includes your self esteem as well as the way which others think of you. It is important to have good self esteem however everyone goes through periods in life of low self esteem.
The largest cause of low self esteem is appearance. Let me introdcuce some facts which I sincerely hope changes the way you think if you have a bad self image. 1) Most people believe that they are ugly. It is COMPLETLY normal. 2) Just about everyone is told by someone in their life that they are ugly. It usually takes dozens of positive compliments to repair the reduced self esteem this causes because people pay more attention to negative comments. 3) Confidence is more attractive than beauty. 4) Beauty does not result in happines.
People often ask "what is the seceret to happiness?" The seceret is appreciation. Next time you are hanging out with your friends or having dinner with your partener, take a moment to think about how good it is to have a relationship with that person. Think about all the good things you have and consider how lucky you are to be who you are. Stop thinking about how good it would be if...... Start thinking about the good rather than the bad. The only thing you need to change is your mindset.
Friday, July 30, 2010
The seven steps to a happier life
Happiness is a state of well-being characterized by our emotions. It is the single most sought after thing in all of our lives and many people are willing do astonishing things to achieve it. So how exactly does someone become happy?
Love and appreciate every good thing that you have
How is someone supposed to be happy if they can’t first appreciate what they have? On a regular basis, remind yourself about all the good things you have. Whenever you feel enjoyment, appreciate it.
How is someone supposed to be happy if they can’t first appreciate what they have? On a regular basis, remind yourself about all the good things you have. Whenever you feel enjoyment, appreciate it.
Find a hobby
Find something that you enjoy and that you can do on a regular basis. Try and do it often enough to constantly have something to look forward to, however, not so often that you lose interest.
Set some goals
Think about where you want to be in the future and decide on some goals that will help get you there. Break larger goals down into smaller and more manageable tasks. Do something EVERYDAY that will help move you closer to completing your goals.
Smile
Smile and you will make others smile. Studies have shown that when you are smiled at, your body undergoes unconscious psychological changes that have many mental and physical health benefits.
Do something good for someone every day without expecting anything in return
By making others happy, you will naturally tend to embrace their happiness. Go out of your way to make someone’s day. One day, those people will return the favor.
Be forgiving
Forgiveness is one of the greatest functions in a relationship. Always forgive EVERYONE no matter the offence. You will live a much happier life without anger and hatred.
Love yourself
It is physically impossible to be happy without loving yourself. The more you love yourself, the happier you will become however, don’t load yourself with too much ego. Before you can truly love yourself, you must accept your true self and appreciate all your gifts.
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Sex before marriage. What does the Bible say?
The idea of dating in modern times is that of finding someone to have a fairytale relationship with which may even come with benefits. This perception of dating has evolved over the years, and with it, the social acceptance of sexual and romantic activity between couples has vastly changed.
The true purpose of dating is to find a suitable partner for marriage therefore it is against Gods wishes for us to date someone knowing for certain that we are not going to marry them. It is perfectly acceptable to end a relationship with a spouse however once married; the couple is joined for life. It may seem easy to get a divorce however a divorce only separates two people in legal terms. Marriage is in fact a lifelong sacrament ordained by God. Once a couple is married, their souls are unified for life.
Most aspects regarding relationships are clearly defined as right or wrong however some are creating uncertainty among Christians so I will now cover one of the most frequently asked questions about sexuality.
Why can’t we have sex before marriage?
First of all, get all negative views of sex out of your head. Sex is a creation from God. He intended it to be good and pleasurable however, he intended for it to be an act of upmost love and devotion between couples of which is declared through marriage. As said earlier, dating is a process of finding a suitable partner for marriage therefore you are bound to go through a process of trial and error before you find your truthful spouse. It is because of this that having sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend is not accepted. God wants us to share this loving experience with only one person in our life.
No matter how much a couple loves each other, even if they are engaged and they are to be married in an hour, it is still a sin to have sex outside marriage. Your body is the temple of God therefore you should remain pure. Most Christians have an understanding of this however; the most uncertainty is within the reasoning. When you asked you parents as a child, “why can’t I……” they would sometimes reply with “because I said so.” This would be rather annoying because without reasoning you cannot understand the issue involved with your actions therefore it is easy to give into temptation and do whatever your parents have disallowed behind their backs. As a child, my parents would watch a movie that may have been inappropriate for a child to watch. When I asked “why can’t I watch this?” they would respond with “you are too young. This is an adult’s film.” The truth of the matter is there is no age where something becomes acceptable. It is just as wrong for them to be watching a film full of sexual references as it is for a ten year old to watch it. The same applies to premarital sex. Often enough in families, the children will become aware of sex at much younger ages than ever and they will start asking questions. Once they have reached a suitable age, it is important to explain the true reasons of why sex before marriage is wrong rather than simply saying “you are too young.”
So what are the true reasons?
Marriage is coming before God and offering yourself to another person in which you will be united for life. When a couple has sex, their bodies become one and their souls unite. If you have sex before marriage, then leave your partner, how are you supposed to unite your soul again in a new relationship?
As Christians, we believe that The Bible is the very own word of God. Corinthians 6:15 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have received from God?
The very own word of God has indicated to us through the Bible that two people become united through sexual intercourse and will become one flesh.
EPH 5:31 “for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
The Bible specific says that when two people have sex they are united. It also says that a man will be united two his wife. From this, we can see that God intends for us to have sex only within marriage.
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