Wednesday, June 23, 2010

postheadericon Sex before marriage. What does the Bible say?

The idea of dating in modern times is that of finding someone to have a fairytale relationship with which may even come with benefits. This perception of dating has evolved over the years, and with it, the social acceptance of sexual and romantic activity between couples has vastly changed.
The true purpose of dating is to find a suitable partner for marriage therefore it is against Gods wishes for us to date someone knowing for certain that we are not going to marry them. It is perfectly acceptable to end a relationship with a spouse however once married; the couple is joined for life. It may seem easy to get a divorce however a divorce only separates two people in legal terms. Marriage is in fact a lifelong sacrament ordained by God. Once a couple is married, their souls are unified for life.
Most aspects regarding relationships are clearly defined as right or wrong however some are creating uncertainty among Christians so I will now cover one of the most frequently asked questions about sexuality.
Why can’t we have sex before marriage?
First of all, get all negative views of sex out of your head. Sex is a creation from God. He intended it to be good and pleasurable however, he intended for it to be an act of upmost love and devotion between couples of which is declared through marriage. As said earlier, dating is a process of finding a suitable partner for marriage therefore you are bound to go through a process of trial and error before you find your truthful spouse. It is because of this that having sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend is not accepted. God wants us to share this loving experience with only one person in our life.
No matter how much a couple loves each other, even if they are engaged and they are to be married in an hour, it is still a sin to have sex outside marriage. Your body is the temple of God therefore you should remain pure. Most Christians have an understanding of this however; the most uncertainty is within the reasoning. When you asked you parents as a child, “why can’t I……” they would sometimes reply with “because I said so.” This would be rather annoying because without reasoning you cannot understand the issue involved with your actions therefore it is easy to give into temptation and do whatever your parents have disallowed behind their backs. As a child, my parents would watch a movie that may have been inappropriate for a child to watch. When I asked “why can’t I watch this?” they would respond with “you are too young. This is an adult’s film.” The truth of the matter is there is no age where something becomes acceptable. It is just as wrong for them to be watching a film full of sexual references as it is for a ten year old to watch it.  The same applies to premarital sex. Often enough in families, the children will become aware of sex at much younger ages than ever and they will start asking questions. Once they have reached a suitable age, it is important to explain the true reasons of why sex before marriage is wrong rather than simply saying “you are too young.”
So what are the true reasons?
Marriage is coming before God and offering yourself to another person in which you will be united for life. When a couple has sex, their bodies become one and their souls unite. If you have sex before marriage, then leave your partner, how are you supposed to unite your soul again in a new relationship?  
As Christians, we believe that The Bible is the very own word of God. Corinthians 6:15 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have received from God?
The very own word of God has indicated to us through the Bible that two people become united through sexual intercourse and will become one flesh.
EPH 5:31 “for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
The Bible specific says that when two people have sex they are united. It also says that a man will be united two his wife. From this, we can see that God intends for us to have sex only within marriage. 


Just a Girl and Her Camera said...

"The Kind" By Flyleaf is worth a listen...